Over a year ago I posted on the topic of Freedom from Perfectionism. In the comments section of the post, my blogger friend, Judy, and I talked books. I told her that I planned to read a book called For An Audience of One: Seek the Praise That Comes From God Alone by R.T. Kendall. I told Judy I would write about it on my blog at some point. But I also warned her that it would take me awhile to get to it. And I was right! I didn’t think it would be over a year. But here I am. And you guys get to come along for the ride. But I think you will enjoy this too.
About the author: The author of the book is R.T. Kendall, who was born in Kentucky. But for twenty-five years he was the Minister at Westminster Chapel in London. He is now retired in Florida. You can read more about him here. This is the second book I have read by this author. And I have to wonder why I have not heard a lot more about him. I have loved both books that I read by Kendall. He writes in a very down-to-earth manner. His words are clear and easy to understand. Yet he also provides a wealth of insight and information. He looks at the topic of each book from so many angles, some of which that take the reader by surprise. And he really knows his stuff. I will definitely be reading more of this author’s books.
About the book: The title of this book should help you to see what this book is about. Basically the idea is that we should live our lives for an audience of One. Everything we say, everything we do, everything we think – we should keep God in mind. He knows all. And He knows our motives. So even if we do the right thing, we might need to question “why” we are doing it.
We should live for God’s glory alone, and not seek the glory of people. The author referenced a particular Bible verse throughout the book. It is one the author has tried to live by all his life. “How can you believe since you accept glory from one another but do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?” – John 5:44
Mr. Kendall says, “If we could intentionally imagine an audience of One—Jesus Himself—is eavesdropping on our every conversation, it could save us from a lot of regret and stress.”
However, the author also points out the fact that “the knowledge that He knows is the most comforting thought I can think of. He knows when I am low. When I am mistreated. When I am spoken evil of. When I am lied about. When I am under financial pressure. When I am ill. When I am depressed. God knows. Hallelujah!”
Minister Kendall touched on various tentacles of this topic. And honestly, some surprised me. He went down avenues that I would never have considered. But everything he touched on was intriguing. For example, there was a chapter in the book dedicated to America’s Second Great Awakening in the early 1800s. This was a time when many people were turning away from God. However, the Holy Spirit moved through certain communities and caused a great revival. This was interesting to read about.
The author touched on numerous other key points. He wrote about the integrity of Jesus, the Heroes of faith that are mentioned in Hebrews 11, and the day of judgement, just to name a few points.
One story that really blew me away in this book came from the Bible. I have read it before. But when the author of this book wrote about it, it really struck me. The story is found in 2 Kings 5. Naaman, who was the king of Aram, went to the prophet Elisha to seek healing from leprosy. Long story short, Elisha gave him advice to wash himself seven times in the Jordan. The king initially didn’t like the advice. But he ended up doing it, and he was healed. He tried to give Elisha a gift to show his gratitude, but Elisha didn’t accept it. As Naaman was traveling home, Gehazi, the servant of Elisha, got a little greedy. He went after Naaman and told him that Elisha changed his mind and did want a gift after all, and the king gave the servant a gift. But Elisha being an anointed prophet, knew what his servant did. And the servant was punished with the leprosy that had left Naaman.
But this is the point that Mr. Kendall made that really hit me – “Elisha does not command Gehazi to go and tell Naaman the truth. This would seem to be a natural thing for Elisha to do—to make sure that Naaman did not believe that Elisha put Gehazi up to what he did. But Elisha did nothing. He did not even bother to protect his own reputation with Naaman; he let him think whatever he willed. This to me is amazing. Elisha knew that God knew the truth. Even though Elisha wanted to teach Naaman a lesson, namely, to let Naaman see what the God of Israel is like, Elisha still did not try clear his name before Naaman. All Elisha did was for an audience of One. That is what mattered to Elisha—that God Himself knew. Elisha wanted the praise that comes from God only.”
I think most of us would want to clear our names in this kind of a situation. But this brings home the point of what living for an audience of One really looks like. There is such freedom in not caring what other people think. We need only worry about what our Almighty God thinks.
In the book, the author even shares a prayer towards the end of the book for nonbelievers to accept Jesus into their lives. I really appreciated that, and I often wonder why we don’t see more of that in Christian nonfiction books.
Conclusion: This book is outstanding and is now among my all-time favorites. I highly recommend it for all Christians, and really for anyone. This book will help believers and nonbelievers alike to think about their lives and their actions. One way to consider the value of a book is to ask the question – Did this book change me for the better? If you can say yes, then the book is well worth the read. And this book most definitely falls into that category. I will end with a quote from the book – “… if we could remember to speak and act as though there were no one else present but Jesus Christ Himself, it could be life-changing.”
Thank you for reading!
Last week I wrote about what I learned during Lent. And today I wanted to share about something else that I learned during those weeks. Towards the beginning of Lent I was feeling restless. Antsy might be a good way to put it. Sitting still was hard. And all of the normal activities that I enjoy couldn’t hold my attention.
Why am I so restless? I wondered. It wasn’t a pleasant feeling. So I was determined to get to the bottom of it.
Here are some thoughts on why we might have a restless spirit:
Perhaps God wants to tell us something. A couple of years ago I heard a sermon by Dr. Charles Stanley on the radio in which he talked about restlessness. He pointed out a story in the book of Esther. “That night the king had trouble sleeping, so he ordered an attendant to bring the book of the history of his reign so it could be read to him.” (Esther 6:1) Could it be that this sleepless night was divine intervention? When the king read the book, he discovered that a man named Mordecai had exposed a plot to kill the king. Mordecai’s good deed went unnoticed at the time. But now that the king was aware, he planned to reward him. (There is a lot more to the story than that. If you never read the book of Esther, it is a quick read and intriguing as well. You can find it here.) But this story points out that sometimes in our restlessness, God is trying to get our attention.
Maybe we are too distracted. In the Martha and Mary story found in Luke 10, Martha was distracted in preparing dinner. She wanted to make a good impression for Jesus, who was a guest at their house that day. But her distraction caused restlessness, and she missed out on quality time with the Messiah. While this particular scene was a temporary distraction, in our current culture we live in a state of constant distraction. Something is always dinging or pinging on our phones. We cannot remove ourselves from being accessible. I think the constant chaos definitely plays a role on our frayed nerves. Learning to lay down distractions, one by one, can help free us from the agitations we feel.
Sometimes the answer is obvious. It could be that we are worried about something. Often when we have a big issue we are facing, it is hard to think about anything else. We cannot reel our minds in, because we are too busy concocting a variety of “what ifs.” In such cases, the best thing to do is pray. 1 Peter 5:7 tells us to “Cast all your anxiety on [God] because He cares for you.” What a comfort it is to know that we can hand our troubles over to the Lord, because He cares about us and He cares about everything we are going through.
There might be other reasons why we are feeling restless. And it might take some time in prayer to figure it out. I had to pray about my situation and God gave me the answer pretty quickly. He told me that I needed quiet time in my day. When I say “quiet time,” I actually mean it two ways.
One way refers to literal sound. I am an introvert and an HSP. In case you are not familiar, an HSP stands for highly sensitive person. An HSP is easily overwhelmed by a lot of sensory overload. It’s not just noise. It’s all the senses. For example, certain strong smells might give me a headache. Check out this website if you want to see if you might fall into this category.
So this means that usually a person like me thrives on peace and quiet. I realize that some people actually like a lot of noise, those who need to have the TV or radio on all the time.
However, when I say quiet time, I am also referring to time with God. My Bible reading time had been rushed, due to various circumstances. And I wasn’t taking the time to relax in the Lord’s presence. Even when I was exercising, I was multitasking by reading my emails and such while I moved my feet. All of this was causing extra jitters. I learned that in order to find peace, I had to intentionally seek peace. I had to be deliberate about carving quiet time into my day. My solution was to get up earlier in the day, so that I had time before the rest of my household got up. This space in my day and time with God was comforting and helped me to start my day in a better frame of mind.
I have learned that what we feed ourselves first thing in the morning can dramatically change our day. If we reach for social media or email first thing, then our day might feel scattered. But if we reach for things that refresh us, this will help us to face the day with peace and productivity.
Quiet time, especially quiet time with the Lord, can help shape our days and bring peace into our hearts. He fills us like no other. All the other things that we reach for will only give us temporary satisfaction. It’s like eating a piece of candy. It might taste good in the moment, but it will soon leave our stomachs growling for more. But when we reach for Jesus, the bread of life, we will find true satisfaction and fulfillment.
For God alone my soul waits in silence; from him comes my salvation. ~ Psalm 62:1 ESV
You move us to delight in praising You, because You have made us for Yourself, and our hearts are restless until they can find peace in You. ~ St. Augustine
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
Admin Note: I am moving my posts from Tuesdays to Thursdays. I post every other Thursday on the Christians Read blog, so this will help keep things a little more organized on my end. Also, due to some extra projects on my plate, in the coming months I might start posting here on the opposite Thursdays from when I post on Christians Read. Thank you for understanding. I am trying to allow God to lead this journey, because it is all about Him and not about me…. I also want to take a moment to thank you for being here. I truly appreciate it. I know there are a million other things you can be doing with your time. So it means more than you know, that you take the time to read my posts! Now onto the main topic of this post…
In my last post prior to Lent, I talked about Fasting, as I was planning on fasting from certain things during Lent. Today I want to share a bit about what I learned over the past couple of months.
Constantly “doing” is an addiction. In our culture, we all wear “busy” like a badge of honor. We make comments about being “too busy” with pride. We feel that we are proving our worth when we are constantly busy. And I honestly believe that our devices (smartphones, tablets, etc.) make us even more addicted to always doing something. When we get an alert on our phone, it gives us a dopamine boost. Therefore, in our culture, it can be extra difficult for us to learn to slow down and be present in our lives.
We have to retrain ourselves to be bored. Devices have cluttered our minds so much that we are never bored anymore. Being bored is actually a good thing, especially when it comes to creativity. When our minds have space, we have the ability to create and dream and flourish.
Quiet time is soothing for the soul. Once we get past the struggle with boredom, if we can truly embrace some quiet time in our day, it will soothe the soul. A lot of “noise” (whether literal or figurative) has a way of cranking us up like a wind-up toy. Too much of this can really fray a person’s nerves. When we intentionally add quiet time into our day, we will find a new sense of peace.
God refreshes us if we allow Him to. In our quiet time, it is also helpful to ask God to join you there. If you sit quietly in the Lord’s presence, He will help refresh your soul. Different versions of Psalm 23:3 verify this. “He restores my soul” (NKJV). “He refreshes my soul” (NIV). “He renews my strength” (NLT). What comforting words!
It is not about perfection. Any kind of fasting, whether during Lent or otherwise, is not about perfection. This is important to remember because if we strive too hard, we can fall into a trap of thinking that our works make us worthy and even assure our salvation. In Romans 8:1 it says, “So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.” And the enemy might really try to wrap a chain around us in this area. The enemy will tell us if we don’t do it perfectly, then we are not worthy, and God is disappointed in us. Please don’t listen to his lies.
It is about drawing closer to God. Whether we are fasting or not, whether it is Lent or not, every day, the bottom line is that we want to draw closer to God. We can make decisions to do that daily, based on our own unique paths. This has the potential to look different for each of us. Prayerfully seeking God’s guidance is key.
It doesn’t always have to be about removing things. Sometimes adding things can help us grow too. One of the things that I added to my routine was a Lenten devotional Uncovering the Love of Jesus by Asheritah Ciuciu. This was a truly rich devotional that helped me to savor the Savior in a fresh way. However, adding things isn’t necessarily key either. It is about being intentional with our time and leaning into Jesus.
Follow God’s lead in finding a balance. As with most things in life, we need to find a balance. One of the things that I have been trying to do each morning is to squeeze in some exercise. However, as I write this, I am staying up past my bedtime to watch a baseball game on TV with my hubby. The result could be that I might get up later than I want to in the morning. But that’s okay. I am learning to balance things that honor God, while still loving others, and also paying attention to my own mind, body, and soul. As I mentioned above, I am trying to follow God’s lead. And that is important with every decision we make.
The past few weeks have taught me a lot, as I have been intentional about abiding in Jesus. It doesn’t have to be a special time of year to draw close to God. He is always there, waiting for us. We are always moving in one direction or another – towards God or away from God. Let us choose to move towards Him.
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
Jesus arrested with no cause
His own disciple betrayed Him
A robe placed on His shoulders
A crown of thorns made on a whim
Jesus was flogged and ridiculed
Instead of Him, a murderer set free
Jesus had to drag His own cross
As He marched uphill to pay our fee
Jesus paid the price willingly
He did it for me and for you
Many have been invited
But acceptance is by but a few
They placed Jesus in a tomb
A stone secured it tight
But the stone rolled away
Darkness couldn’t hold the Light
Jesus defeated sin and death
When He rose from the grave
It was out of pure love
That His one life He gave
I hope and pray that you have accepted Jesus into your life. If you haven’t, but you are ready to do so, see the prayer HERE. This will be the most important decision you ever make.
Happy Resurrection Sunday!
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
Please don’t skip this. I know the thought of fasting makes many of us groan with discomfort. Food is something our culture puts a lot of buzz around. Food is at the center of every social gathering. We see an abundance of food and drink pictures on social media. When we are eating something particularly tasty, we might take a picture of it and text it to our friends. We plan out our daily schedule around our meals. When we feel like we had a rough day, we treat ourselves with something sweet. Food has a strong presence in our lives and our culture.
I admit that I like to eat. And when we all saw empty shelves during the pandemic, this put a fear in me – a fear of not being able to find food when we need it. And in 2021 when I went through a lot of stress, I found myself eating more food, more frequently. I used food as a crutch. All of this makes the thought of fasting even more uncomfortable to me.
But my husband and I have been participating in fasts each January for the past couple of years. And I have learned so much each time we go through these fasts.
When we take the time to fast, and set aside our anxiety surrounding less food on our plates, the results can be amazing. The point of fasting is to draw closer to God. You might wonder how laying aside food can do that. When we are hungry, we have an opportunity to run to the Lord and seek His presence and comfort. When we do this, we learn that He is truly all we need.
Does fasting have to be only from food? I suppose this is a matter of opinion and you might have to pray about it to see how the Lord convicts you. I have heard one pastor mention before that he felt cutting back on food was the only real fast. Personally, I am a big advocate of fasting from anything that might hinder your relationship with the Lord – social media, television, radio, alcohol, video games, frivolous shopping, etc. There are tons of things in our lives that we might turn to as an idol or a crutch.
Dear children, keep away from anything that might take God’s place in your hearts. – 1 John 5:21
Some questions you might ask yourself to help discover your idols or crutches:
Do I have to have this item or activity in my life?
What would happen if I had to do without it?
Do I run to this item or activity when I am feeling down?
Do I spend more time thinking about this / doing this than with the Lord?
Does this bring me more joy than the Lord?
Okay, I will be honest. I love coffee. This is something I don’t want to give up. But I have done so at times, just to prove a point to myself. I showed myself that I can live without it, if I had to.
However, I don’t believe God necessarily wants to deprive us of the joys of life. It’s okay to drink a cup of coffee each morning. We just can’t value it more than we value Him. We shouldn’t run to it for comfort, when instead we can run into the arms of Jesus.
But it goes deeper than the obvious things we see at surface level. Sometimes an item or activity might merely be a distraction. In my opinion, this can be even more dangerous than things we know have a hold on us. That is because we might feel this thing in our lives is innocent, and therefore we might not realize how much it keeps us from the things of Jesus. For example, I am convinced that our enemy is laughing over how much time so many of us spend with our heads down as we look at our devices. Social media and smartphones are completely destroying our society.
Perhaps you think I am exaggerating. I cannot blame you. I appreciate having my smartphone and tablet on hand when I need them. But I also know how much of a distraction they are. Many times I will reach for my phone just to do something. I don’t really need to check my email again, when I just checked it within the last hour. Yet I habitually still grab my phone and do so anyway.
Recently my husband and I were at a store. In the parking lot we saw a vehicle pull in and park. Out of the vehicle came the adults and their teenage daughter – all who had a phone in their hands and heads down. It was comical and sad at the same time. This is the kind of generation we are living in. Some people aren’t truly living. Instead they are stuck in a fake world of filtered pictures as they scroll and tap.
It is my opinion that we each might need to fast from different things in our lives periodically, in order to get back to basics. When we lay aside things that tempt us or distract us, we have a chance to run after the Lord and hold tightly to Him. When we do this, we will never regret it. He will fill us and satisfy us.
In the Bible, often times we see full fasts from food as a way of seeking God’s guidance or deliverance from a certain situation. This is something to keep in mind as we fast. You might want to bring a certain prayer request before the Lord. But don’t merely fast as a way of getting something from God. Fasting should draw us closer to Him, even if we don’t get what we want.
With all that being said and since tomorrow is the first day of Lent – I will be fasting from some things over the next several weeks. I will be fasting from social media completely. Also, I will not be posting here on my blog. I also plan to lay aside / cut back on anything that I tend to reach for out of habit.
(Side note – I used the words “cut back” here, but I will be setting specific guidelines for myself. And I suggest you do the same, if you plan to fast from anything. If we say that we are merely “cutting back” then in many cases we might wind up doing that “thing” more than intended and therefore get nowhere. I am just being a little vague because this post is long enough. Haha!)
You might recall that my word for 2022 is Abide. I want to abide in Jesus and His love. I don’t want to abide in food, social media, gadgets, or anything else that won’t truly fill me.
I encourage you to also prayerfully consider anything that you might fast from over the next few weeks. If you do decide to fast, let me know. I would love to hear about it and cheer you on!
Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you. – Anne Lamott
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
Over the last few weeks I have been talking about showing others God’s love and kindness. But I think it can be a challenge for us to do that, if we don’t fully embrace God’s love in our own hearts. It’s ironic that many of God’s own children go through life without truly knowing how much He loves them. But it’s also completely understandable because God’s love is so great, and difficult for our human minds to grasp.
When writing about the love of God, Andrew Murray stated, “God is love. Love is His very being. Love is not an attribute, but the very essence of His nature, the centre round which all His glorious attributes gather. ”
How can we grow in this area? How can we firmly grasp His love and also extend love back to Him? There are some things we can do in our daily activities that will help.
1 – Spend time with Him. Reading the Bible, praying, and listening for God’s voice will strengthen our relationship with Him. As we spend time with Him, His love will become evident.
2 – Make gratitude and praise daily habits. These two practices will help us to focus on God’s goodness. When we see how good God is to us, then we will be able to better comprehend that He is good to us because He loves us. And when we see how good He is to us, we will overflow with love for Him in return.
3 – Don’t let the enemy win. The enemy will try to get in your head and tell you that you are not good enough for God’s love. He will tell you that your sins are too great. He will tell you that God’s love might be tangible for other people, but not for you. These are all lies. Stay strong against the enemy’s tactics.
4 – Invest in truth. Read books and find Bible verses that proclaim God’s love and goodness. Write down anything you find that speaks to you. As you keep feeding yourself truth, you will be able to push out the lies that you have believed for too long.
Here are some words of truth to get you started. Reflecting on the verses below will help you to embrace the love of God…
• For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him. ~ Psalm 103:11
• And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. ~ Romans 8:28
• Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life. ~ Psalm 143:8
• For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. ~ John 3:16
• I lift up my eyes to the mountains – where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. ~ Psalm 121:1-2
• So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. ~ Genesis 1:27
• The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing. ~ Zephaniah 3:17
• For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ~ Romans 8:38-39
• For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. ~ Ephesians 2:10
• The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” ~ Jeremiah 31:3
• See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. ~ 1 John 3:1
• And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. ~ Romans 5:5
• Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. ~ John 15:13
• Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. ~ Lamentations 3:23
• For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. ~ Psalm 139:13-14
• But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds. ~ Psalm 73:28
• You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. ~ John 15:16
• We love because he first loved us. ~ 1 John 4:19
I pray that every day we can remember just how much we are loved by our Lord. He loves us like no other. And when we cling to His love for us, we can more freely share that love with those around us.
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
My husband and I have an acquaintance whom we have known for many years. Recently, though, this person’s attitude has seemed to take a turn. Long story short, his communications have been vulgar at times. I told my husband he should stop communicating with him. But he hasn’t. When I asked my husband why he still talks to him, he explained that he fears for this person’s soul. He truly believes this person is not saved, and he hopes that his connection with him will help alter that. I must say that I admire my husband’s character to forge ahead, for the sake of the Kingdom of God.
When Jesus walked this earth, we see how He too often associated with people who were not believers.
While Jesus was having dinner at Levi’s house, many tax collectors and sinners were eating with him and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. When the teachers of the law who were Pharisees saw him eating with the sinners and tax collectors, they asked his disciples: “Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?” On hearing this, Jesus said to them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” – Mark 2:15-17
Jesus came so that all might be saved. And as His followers, we are to help bring people to Him.
Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” – Matthew 28:18-20
In the words of the late writer, teacher, and pastor, Andrew Murray, “What the Church and the world both need is this: men and women full of the Holy Ghost and of love, who, as the living embodiments of the grace and power of Christ, witness for Him, and for His power on behalf of those who believe in Him.”
Yet Jesus also warns us that if we are not accepted, it might be appropriate to move on. When sending out His disciples, He told them, “If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.” (Matthew 10:14).
It is also important to not put ourselves in situations that we know are wrong or might tempt us to sin. Proverbs 4:23 tells us, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” So we have to be careful how we approach people or situations. For example, my husband might still talk to this person, but that doesn’t mean he will spend time with him in undesirable places.
So how can we know when it is right to persist and when we should move on? If we stay in tune to the Lord and listen to His promptings, He will lead us. Sometimes the Holy Spirit will lay a burden on our hearts for certain people. I believe that is what He has done with my husband in regards to this acquaintance of ours. And whether we continue to associate with certain people or not, we can always keep praying for them.
We can also be a witness to those around us, just by being ourselves. I have a coworker who has told me before that when we witness to others, it is not always with our words. And he is right. Just by being kind, we are showing people the love of Jesus. Eventually it will make an impact. Especially in our world today. When someone is always nice, it stands out.
Like my husband is in this situation, we can keep being nice to those around us. We are called to show others the love of Jesus. “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” (John 3:17)
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
Due to being in the month of February, I am continuing on the topic of love. Mainly focusing on the love of God and how we can reflect that to those around us.
One of our dogs is prone to itchy ears. We have drops that we put in his ears at times. However, several weeks ago, we were running low. The vet is forty-five minutes away, and it was nearly five o’clock on the day before Christmas Eve. So our only hope was that the vet would be open the following day. I called the vet to see what their Christmas Eve hours would be. And I also wanted to make sure we could pick up these drops. Our dog wasn’t due for a check up yet, so I thought it should be fine.
I called and a young lady answered. Before putting me on hold, she said she wanted to ask the doctor about it first. Hold music … hold music … hold music. After listening to the hold music for a few minutes, the phone was disconnected. So I called back. This time a young man answered. I explained to him that a young lady had put me on hold and that I got disconnected. He too said he wanted to ask the veterinarian about the ear drops, and he put me on hold. Then pretty much the same thing happened. Hold music … hold music … hold music. Then I was disconnected again. I was now under the assumption that after being on hold for a certain length of time, their system automatically hangs up the line. So I called back a third time. Talked to the same young man. Hold music … hold music … hold music. Disconnected again. I called back a fourth time. The same young man said that he was about to pick up the line when it hung up. He told me I could come in to get the medicine. I thanked him for his help. Then click. The guy hung up on me! No “you’re welcome” and no “good-bye.” So I called back a fifth time. Luckily, it was the same boy that hung up on me. I said in the nicest voice I could muster, “Oh we must’ve gotten disconnected again before we were able to say good-bye. I just wanted to make sure I thanked you for your help.” Yup, I really did that! He kind of stammered a little bit and we ended the conversation peacefully.
I have to be honest though, getting hung up on hurt my feelings. He shouldn’t have hung up on me for so many reasons. (1) I was a customer. (2) He knew the phone system had already disconnected me several times. (3) I didn’t do anything wrong or rude to deserve it. (4) It was Christmas!! Those are just a few reasons why it was wrong. I am sure there are more.
But this made me think about how, as Christians, we should spread the love of God to those around us. And one way we can do that is to be kind. We are showing others the grace and love and mercy of God, through our kindness.
And kindness helps us to feel better. I know when I have been short with someone, I walk away feeling badly. But when I am kind, even if they don’t deserve it, it makes me feel lighter.
When we are kind to others, it stands out in this angry world we live in. I can tell you that this is true from my own experience. There have been numerous occasions when my husband and I have been greeted by an exceptionally pleasant person at the drive-thru (or wherever). And when we part ways, we mention to each other how nice the person was, and how nice it was to deal with them. It doesn’t take a lot to treat others the way Jesus would want us to. When we do, this helps the other people to see a tiny piece of the Lord’s love. Could it be that we might be the only piece of Jesus that some will see? Keeping this thought in mind will help us to be kind more often.
When we are kind, we also remember how kind the Lord has been to us. We don’t deserve His kindness, yet He freely gives it to us. Every day.
I pray that we can keep in mind how kind God has been to us. And I pray we can learn to spread that kindness to those around us, as we reflect the love of the Lord.
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32 ESV
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
Hi Friends! With Valentine’s Day approaching in a couple of weeks, we have officially entered the “love month.” So with that in mind, we are going to talk about love over the next few weeks. Mainly I want to focus on God’s love for us, our love for Him, and how we show that love to those around us.
I want to start with a story that occurred a few months ago when my husband and I celebrated our fourteenth wedding anniversary. I am thankful to say that my husband and I don’t usually put a lot of hoopla into things like our anniversary, Valentines Day, etc. We usually recognize them. But there are no expectations, which means there are no disappointments. I think our culture often puts too much into these things. Some people (often women) get mad when the day is accidentally forgotten. I used to be that way years ago too. But I am thankful that I am not like that anymore (for the most part).
Anyway, back to the story. My husband wanted to go out to the store the night before our anniversary because he hadn’t yet bought a card. It was late, and I told him not to worry about it. And I jokingly mentioned that he could make a card. A little while later he asked if we had any generic cards around the house. We did have some blank cards, but I had a better idea. I had already bought my husband, not one, but two cards. I knew one was addressed generically, meaning it wasn’t addressed to “my husband.” It was something like “my love.” So it could go either way. Well on closer inspection I discovered that both cards were generically addressed. I really didn’t realize that when I bought them. Since they were in the “husband” area, I didn’t notice that the card didn’t actually say “husband.” Luckily I had not signed the cards yet. So I mentioned to my hubby that I had bought two cards and I could give him one of them to give to me. And that is what we did.
I am giggling as I write this, because it is quite comical to me. But I am sure some of you out there are quite aghast at the atrocity.
Here’s the thing… A card, flowers, or a box of chocolates. Those things are nice and it is fun to be surprised with them at times. But that is not love. Love is seen in the day in and day out of our routines. Love is getting out of bed when you don’t feel like it, to make breakfast. Love is taking out the trash without complaining. Love is saying thank you for the cup of coffee you didn’t have to make yourself.
During the days surrounding Valentine’s Day, many people are focused on worldly love. Unfortunately worldly love doesn’t last. So during this month (and beyond), let’s focus on showing those around us the love of God. It can be displayed in our actions, big and small, every day.
This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. – John 15:12
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
In the U.S.A. we are currently in our winter season. I know some of you reading this are in summertime. But winter doesn’t necessarily have to mean literal timeframes. Sometimes in our lives we feel like we are in a winter season, no matter what the temperature is outside. I was recently reflecting on the value in winter and wanted to share some thoughts with you.
As you might know, winter is good for nature for several reasons. Plants actually benefit from shorter daylight hours and lower temperatures as they become dormant. This helps the plants to store up energy for new growth. And strong winters also help get rid of bugs, as the severe cold kills them off. (1)
But this made me ponder how our spiritual growth can also benefit from a winter season, whether literal or figurative. We need time to rest and recuperate, especially after a busy season. This helps us to flourish and create new growth in our lives. If we always kept moving at a fast pace, our bodies would eventually burn out. And winter can also be a good time for us to use as a reflection period. If we slow down for a bit, we have the ability to evaluate our lives. What “bugs” need to go? And what do we want to “plant” in the coming months?
This ties in to last week’s post in which I talked about Learning to Let Go. A little over a week ago, my area had a couple of days that were filled with gusty winds. After the windy days were over, I saw many large tree limbs lying on the ground. The weather helped the trees to shake free dead branches that had become a hindrance.
Similarly, in our lives we too can take this time to reflect on the “buried” areas of our lives, and let them go. Or maybe we even might want to resurrect something. It is not just about letting go. During this time, you might also need to rest and restore your soul. Or perhaps you might want to set goals and prepare for new growth in the coming months.
The answers will look different for all of us. And the answers might change for each of us from season to season. But perhaps you’ll want to prayerfully consider these things in your own life.
During this season do you need to take time to rest and remove unnecessary tasks from your plate?
During this season do you need to remove any old habits from your life that are hindering your growth?
During this season do you need to plant new growth in your spiritual life by spending more time with the Lord?
During this season do you need to pull an old dream out of the grave and make it come to life?
These are just a few generic questions you might reflect on. Ask the Lord to guide you and to open your heart to anything He might be asking you to do (or not do) during this season.
Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him… – Psalm 37:7
Rest in God’s arms
Let your body replenish
Soak up His love
The fruit will flourish
Let go of the past
Don’t be afraid to be bold
The broken pieces float away
As you release the old
New things are coming
Good can be found in change
Hold tightly to the Lord
Open your eyes to all you gain
© 2022 Bridget A. Thomas
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